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If you have become unemployed recently your first instinct may be to take your layoff as a paid vacation and use it to relax a bit. On the other hand you may become morose and want to find solace in drinks, tobacco, food or other bad habits. Or you may become resigned and park yourself before your TV all the time.

You must understand that all these activities are self defeating and dangerous and can quickly put you on the path to financial ruin and family problems or may even lead to bankruptcy. However, remember all is not lost and you can still raise your self-esteem and improve your family morale by doing some very pro-active things and prepare yourself for the difficult times ahead.

The first thing that you should do is improving your look. Get a new haircut, hair color or make up. Buy some new clothing. Or better still, do all of them. Looking good will make you feel more confident. Pay attention to your posture. Take care how you stand and move. All this does not only send a message to the outside world but in fact it is meant to be a message to your own self. When you don’t care about the way you look, walk, or move, it means that you consider that you do not matter. Therefore, you must behave and act as if you do matter and like you are honoring yourself.

Self-confidence and self-respect co-exist. You need to be prepared to do things that can help you gain and retain your self-respect. At the same time you must be willing to respect others. This is important because may need to cut people who do not allow you to feel positive about yourself out of your life. Depending on the people you accept in your life, your self-confidence can either flourish or evaporate. Make sure that you keep yourself surrounded by people who display through their actions that they care about you and that your interests are close to their hearts.

Don’t compare yourself with other people or measure yourself by other people’s standards. Appreciate your values and learn to love yourself. You are unique in the universe. Everyone has a value and can offer something to the world. Introspect and identify your personal mission and purpose in life. The best way to build up your confidence is to do something that you are passionate about and that which involves using your unique abilities and talent. You can never have confidence in yourself if you do not like the work you do or if you are not competent for doing your job.

Taken positively, your layoff could actually be a blessing in disguise. It can provide you with an opportunity for reevaluating your life and deciding upon the direction that you would like heading in. If you are unsure how to begin you can get help by taking a personality test that is offered free by a number of websites on the Internet and find out which can be the best career path for you to pursue.

In the meanwhile, don’t remain idle. Involve yourself in some meaningful work without delay even as a volunteer. Do volunteer work to let people and organizations benefit from your expertise.

You may not be able to overcome the trauma of being laid off overnight. However, to regain your self-confidence you just need to find out what you want and get after it tooth and nail.

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